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Competing with a Ghost

Dear Sugar,

God forgive me but I feel like I’m competing with a ghost. My husband’s ex-wife died after battling with cancer for several years, while I understand that he may never completely get over her, I feel like I am constant competition with her. There is a GIANT photo of her in our living room, and the only time I have brought up taking it down we ended up having a big fight. Am I asking too much that he moves on finally?

Thanks Mrs. C

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Dear Mrs. C,

How Do I Politely Decline To Be My Friend's Maid Of Honour

Dear Sugar,

I am getting married in January, and my friend is getting married in December. She has asked me to be her maid of honour, but I have my own wedding to plan! How do I decline without hurting any feelings?

- Hauwa

Dear Hauwa, 

My Sister's Husband Is A Cheat

Dear Sugar

I’m really worried for my sister. She’s been married five years. I recently just found out and with proof that her husband is having an affair. They have two children, which is one of the reasons I don’t want to interfere. What should I do?
- Mosunmola

Dear Mosunmola,

Can I invite my ex to my wedding?

Dear Sugar,

My partner and I got into an argument because I mentioned that I want to invite one of my exes that I’m still good friends with to our wedding. I don’t see anything wrong with that. Please could you shed some light on this for me?

- Ifeoma

Dear Ifeoma

Two Religions, Two Ceremonies, How Do We Go About It

Dear Sugar

I am a Christian woman marrying a Muslim man. We initially wanted to have one (1) ceremony where an Imam would go first and then afterwards my minister would take us through a Christian ceremony. His Imam says that is forbidden according to Islamic rites. We are both confused as to what to do. Please advise.

- Lolade

Dear Lolade

Finances Are Ruining My Marriage

Dear Sugar,

My husband and I have been having the same fights recently and the root is always our finances. Though we both have good jobs, we have very different financial priorities for example he wants to buy new golf clubs while I would rather pay for the children's after school lessons. I don’t want this to ruin our marriage, please tell me what to do.

- Chiamaka

Dear Chiamaka,

I want to adopt but my husband is strongly against it.

Dear Sugar,
I have been married for 5 years and we haven’t been blessed with kids yet. We have tried all sorts, invested blood, sweat and money, all efforts have been futile.
My doctor recently proposed the idea of adoption and i bought it. Unfortunately my husband isn’t down with it. I don’t know what to do.

- Tochi

Dear Tochi,

I found sex tapes of my husband and other women on his phone. Should I confront him?

Dear Sugar,

I just lost my phone and had to use my husband's old phone temporarily. I was casually cleaning out the phone when i found sex tapes of my husband and other women. I was dazed and disturbed, still am. Should I confront him about it?
- Tinuke

My Husband Wants Us To Swing To Revive Our Sex Life: What Do You Think?

Dear Sugar,

I was recently diagnosed with a terminal disease that required surgery. My husband is a doctor so he was completely involved in my treatments and all. However, somewhere down the line, our sex life became nonexistent although we are still very much in love.
Now my husband is suggesting we swing in order to fix our issues. He says a lot of married people swing these days. I want to try it but I’m confused. What do you think?
- Dara

Dear Dara,

I’m a single mother who is dating, should I tell my boyfriend I have a child?

Dear Sugar,
I just started dating again since the birth of my child but i'm scared to tell my boyfriend about my child. What should i do?
- Busayo