Ask Sugar: Is My Girlfriend Really Cheating On Me?

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Dear Sugar,

 

 

I am a bit confused. I love my girlfriend so much and there hasn't been a day where we don't profess how much we love each other. I was hoping that this quarantine, we can spend more time together. I asked her to decide whether we should stay at hers or mine but she kept insisting that I will distract her and her work can be demanding. So I stayed back. I called her about two nights ago and heard a guy's voice in the background.

She told me that she forgot to mention that her cousin came to Lagos from Portharcourt for a job interview and her space was the only place available for him. She said she didn't expect that the quarantine would happen so soon, so he's there with her until it's over so he can do what he came to do. But I have been very suspicious ever since. I never even knew about her cousin until now. Am I overthinking this? Am I overreacting?

Anonymous

 

Dear Anonymous, 

It can be really painful having to overthink that someone you deeply love is cheating on you. Because you're in a lot of pain and doubt, it's very necessary that you talk it out with her. Since you're unsure about the existence of her cousin before now, it's enough to raise eyebrows. You should do more findings on your own about the cousin if you think she would hide the truth from you.

You should, however, also consider asking her first for old pictures or some sort of evidence to show that he really is what she says he is. Whatever the case is, choosing to pursue this will have its consequences; she may feel betrayed that you don't believe her, or you may have a heartbreak realising that she's been lying. So, it's important that you're prepared for anything.

Wish you all the best.

 

With Love,

Sugar

 

Written by SWP editor