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I’m crushing on my husband’s friend and I think he feels the same way. Do I tell my husband?

Dear sugar,
I have a crush on my husband’s friend and I think it’s mutual. I fear telling him may ruin our marriage. What should I do?
- Vanessa.

Dear Vanessa,

Should I Buy A Used Wedding Dress?

Dear Sugar,

I’m considering buying a used wedding dress; my friends think it’s a crazy idea; I would like to know the pros and cons to it.
- Rebecca Ade

Dear Rebecca,

This depends on two major things, Are you a bride on a budget? Or are you the type of bride that can’t justify spending hundreds of thousands of Naira on a dress that you will typically wear once in your life?

There are a few pros and cons to buying a used wedding dress.


I don’t know what to do with my Cheating Husband

My husband is a chronic cheat, when I say CHRONIC I mean its really bad. He sleeps with and flirts with any woman he sees - my friends are not even off limits!!!! I have talked, screamed, cried, begged, prayed. Most people say I should leave but I don't believe in divorce.

I Am About to Marry a Man I Feel I Don't Love

Hi Sugar, I am getting scared everyday as my wedding day approaches. My man loves me so much and has been my support. We have known each other for Seven years but started dating last year and then he proposed to me this january. But I don't feel I love him even though he has been very supportive and has a very good character. What do I do?


He Makes Less Money Than I Do

Dear Mr Sugar,

I wasn't really worried about marriage until I turned thirty, then it suddenly seemed like I was running out of time. Luckily, I met my fiancé a few months after my thirtieth birthday and we clicked instantly.

Should I Stay or Walk Away

Dear Mr Sugar,
My fiancé and I have been dating on and off for 7 years. We got back together late last year and he proposed. We set a date and started planning the wedding. Then we found out that the girl he dated while we were broken up was pregnant and she says it is his.

Getting Old and Desperate

Dear Mr. Sugar,

I'm a 34 year old woman currently not in a relationship with no prospects in sight. Every man who comes my way is either married, in some sort of relationship or, just plain unserious.

Am I In the Right Relationship?

Dear Sugar,

My boyfriend and I have known each other for about 8 years now but just started dating about 3 months ago, we were school mates and haven't been in touch since we left school. He found me on Facebook and we started dating from there.

Interfaith Wedding Problems

Mr Sugar, my fiance and i have been arguing about our wedding plans. We are both of different religions and i have stated my wish to be married in a church to which is has refused. i told him even if we do a civil wedding, I would still like the pastors wedding to which he still adamantly refuses. I don't know what to do as this is causing a very big rift. Your response would be appreciated.

Why won't they be happy for me?

Dear Mr. Sugar, I'm happily engaged to be married in a few months, but my friends and family aren't happy with my choice to get married so soon, the feel that we barely know each other and can't possibly be ready to get married. We've dated for about 4 months, and we're both a 100% sure we want to be married to each other so what's the problem?