I want to adopt but my husband is strongly against it.

Dear Sugar,
I have been married for 5 years and we haven’t been blessed with kids yet. We have tried all sorts, invested blood, sweat and money, all efforts have been futile.
My doctor recently proposed the idea of adoption and i bought it. Unfortunately my husband isn’t down with it. I don’t know what to do.

- Tochi

Dear Tochi,

Patience is very key when you and your husband have differing views in general and that has to apply in this case.
I can imagine how painful it is when you feel strongly about something and your partner doesn’t. I’m sure all you want to do is market the idea to him by showing him pictures of children who need parents, the pros of adoption but don’t do it aggressively. This is something you’ll never win by trying to guilt trip him.
You need to be united, or you won’t succeed and not only will the adoption suffer, your marriage might bear the brunt too.
If you bought into the idea of adoption, you have to wait till your husband feels the same as opposed to shoving it down his throat.
Be patient and understanding with him. Just because he says no now doesn’t mean there no possibility in future.

All the best.