Getting Old and Desperate

Dear Mr. Sugar,

I'm a 34 year old woman currently not in a relationship with no prospects in sight. Every man who comes my way is either married, in some sort of relationship or, just plain unserious.

I am no Halle Berry, but I am quite attractive, I have a good job, I cook, I go to church and, I come from a good family. It has become a source of embarrassment, all my friends are married and most have kids. Everyone under the sun feels they have the right to discuss my relationship with me and give me all sorts of crazy advice.

At this point all the weddings I attend are those of my much younger cousins, I'm tired of buying aso-ebi and pretending that all is well. What do I do?

Kelechi

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Dear Kelechi,

I'm sorry to hear that you're getting desperate. Unfortunately our society puts such a high premium on getting hitched by a certain age, that a lot of women and men marry the first decent person that shows the slightest interest in them. The results of this are apparent in our ever growing divorce rates among young couples. Getting married to the right person is a beautiful thing which everyone has a right to experience. However, remember that it is only a part of your life, not your whole universe. Do NOT put your life on hold waiting for the 'right' man to come along. You have a lot more to be thankful for than most people. I suggest you enjoy your days as a single woman living your life to the fullest and taking advantage of the fact that you are fully in control of your time by doing the things you may not get a chance to do once that special man and your children come along. Wishing you all the best!

- Mr. Sugar