We are not one of those fairy tale happily ever after couples cuz we had our first fight the other day…I was so upset, I felt like kicking Demola in the head…lol, I would really like to see that happen, I usually run when I see a lizard, lol.
So what were we fighting about? Right, Demola is fond of "not showing up" without any explanation or call. He would ring a day before to tell me, he's coming around the next day. So an excited Dunni would be at home waiting, running to the door when the doorbell goes off or running to the window when a car honks at the gate. Usually when it’s about 6pm, I basically just give up…
If you have ever been stood up, then you would understand how disappointing and sad this is…but imagine this happening on the average of twice a month….OH MY GOODNESS, VERY VERY UPSETTING! His defence usually is, "you should have called when I didn't" and I usually have that look of
"what the heck are you talking about?"
Anyways, this happens again…I'm home on my day off, I could have spent my day going to the saloon or having lunch at Robert Café or Nubites restaurant, but I'm at home and the catch honestly was the fact that he was supposed to bring the tyre rims he bought for my car…so I'm at home waiting, waiting, waiting…and at about 6pm I give up…so I got so upset and sent him a text. Ooh oooh no, you don’t want to know what the content was.
He flips a thousand times over and rings me back. Let me tell you a little about myself, I can start a hassle {fight or tiff} but I don’t ever follow through. He gives me a download of anger, he had accumulated all day from work, when one of his staff had an accident at work and he had to take him to the hospital and also pay a huge hospital bill.
The table then turns…instead of getting an apology, I now have to give one which made me more upset, don’t you just hate that when it happens, they {guys} get us {babes} so upset and twist it somehow to make us feel like its our fault…but you know that the best part of fighting is ‘making up’…ooohh… uuuhm, get your minds out of the gutter…nothing like that, oh yeah, I know what y’all were thinking right. Anyway, we made up over prawn kebab and grilled fish…I absolutely love seafood.
Truthfully, meeting Demola has helped me work on my patience and tolerance level. I have had to understand that I'm the woman in the relationship and he is the man, something I'm not really used to, because I have never been that committed to a guy. I have found a new meaning to the phrase "I'm sorry" and I'm not afraid to use it and most importantly every time I say it, I think I truly mean it.
We fight often now, oh yeah we do, and I'm not afraid to admit to you all, but its okay because I know that we can deal with it and move on.
Oyster Thots,
Dunni
xoxo