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The expression of emotion is almost an art; only creatives or people with a gifted tongue experience little or no problems explaining to their loved ones exactly how they feel. As life would have it, most people that get into serious relationships are obliged to do this as well. If you are having some trouble unleashing your inner Romeo or Juliet, you’re in for a treat!
Here is the ultimate guide to writing your wedding vows:
- Set a general expectation of vows with your partner
Before you begin writing your vows, discuss a few rules with your partner which involve the length of vows, whether to share private experiences or not and incorporating religious or traditional influences. This is done to largely avoid too much disparity in the form of vows in case people get into a comparative analysis of your heartfelt love.
- Do not use “always” and “never”
These words are a pure set-up because no one is perfect and beyond mistakes. Better, realistic expressions lie in explaining to your significant other how much you will try to do something within the highest point of your capabilities although you are not perfect.
- Use Inspiration from your favourite songs, movies or poems
If you have any favourite songs, movies or poems, you can incorporate a memorable line that really resonates with your current emotions towards your partner, into your vows.
- Express your true love with words
It is super important to say “I love you” in your vows; these three words probably represent the highest point of the vow presentation. The rest of the actual vow essentially tells everyone else what made you love your partner and how you started.
- Draw your personal experiences in
It’s an acceptable practice to talk about specific moments in your relationship that laid certain foundations for marriage in the first place. Your vow does not have to sound like an award-winning poem but describing the first time you saw him and how you guys rode that kayak together makes all the difference. These experiences should be the most memorable because it’s impossible to mention everything.
- Do not focus on how emotional you sound
Words should come straight from your heart so the last thing you need to worry about is being cheesy and overly emotional.
- Do not share your vows with your partner until the wedding
It is important that you isolate yourself from your partner while writing vows so that you can process your emotions clearly and not risk exposing it before the big day. Think of your vow as a gift to your future spouse.
- Practice reading your vows out loud
When you’ve mastered your words, master your pitch. Pay attention to pauses, intonations and expressing the purest form of emotion when you read your vow out loud. During this time, it is advisable to change something you feel doesn’t sound right. Some people have resorted to three drafts before they become satisfied with the final version.
Vows are special; it’s important to take your time with them so that they remain the gift that keeps on giving even after your wedding.