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Fixed in a battle between conflicting emotions can be torture. Then you start to consider succumbing to the friendzone thinking it's better than nothing.
Making the shift from friend to lover seems tenuous and risky but being true to our feelings is necessary and what's life without adventure? There's nothing to be ashamed of in going after your desire. Your approach to this may be the deciding factor.
Here is a guide on how to increase your chances of escaping the dreaded zone while keeping your dignity intact regardless of the outcome.
Own Up
The first step is to be prepared to talk. Speaking up and owning your truth is the sign of empowerment and confidence. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. If love is your goal, better to take the chance to attain it than stand by sadly, silent and frustrated, as you watch your friend date others.
Keep It Brief
Admitting your feeling may be surprising to your friend and you don't need to linger on explaining. It's a piece of information you're passing, so pass it in a brief and clear term. They may need time to adjust to this new input perhaps they had no idea you felt this way. Remember, its just information. After you've stated your feelings, take a break. You're not waiting for an answer.
Don't Change
Resume your former conversation or activity. Your friend won't hear what you're saying, anyway. They're still processing the new information. This shows your special friend that their response is irrelevant. You know your power. You know your worth.
Don't Ask Many Questions
This is a cardinal rule! Never give another person the power to validate your worth. Asking shows you doubt your value. It's a sign that you're begging for their approval and there's nothing sexy about lack of confidence. Spend time improving yourself while spending time with other people but give your friend just enough attention. You have to be desirable.