Dear Sugar,
I am married with two kids; I feel like this is the worst decision I have made in my life. My husband and I got married in 2016; I've been regretting this so much. Ever since our marriage, I've been suspecting that my husband is cheating, but I could never place it. I have gotten STDs several times from him and he still will lie about it all. In fact, we even had a fight where he was claiming that I may have been the one that gave him.
Last year, we agreed to leave Nigeria. We were able to get a visa for me and since the kids already have a passport ( they were born there) it was not an issue, so I am currently in London. My husband said he wanted to sort out some work-related issue before he joins us. During the lockdown, I got a call from my sister-in-law, that my husband got a girlfriend staying in our Nigerian home with him.
I haven't confronted him on this issue, but this crowns all of my suspicions. I am thinking of getting a divorce but I am scared of the impact it will have on the kids. They are still so young.
S.L
Dear S.L,
It's great that you have come to realise what has been aloof in your relationship with your husband. Abusive relationships don't only have to be physical; a lot of times, mental and emotional abuse hits deep. Even though your reason for wanting to stay may be legitimate, consider how it will affect your children in the long run if you stay in the relationship. Choosing to get a divorce can take a long painful toll, but doing something that will put you at peace and improve your self-esteem is essential.
Wishing you all the best,
Sugar
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