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Dear Sugar,
In the space of our 5-year marriage, I have had two miscarriages. Recently, I just found out that I am pregnant again and I told my husband. Even though he didn’t show much excitement as I would have expected, he has insisted not to tell my family or his about the pregnancy.
In fact, he’s making plans for us to avoid seeing our families until after I have given birth. I kind of find this awkward and he hasn’t explained his reasons for wanting to do this. Every time I ask, he just says that it is better that we keep it from prying eyes. I really don’t understand. As for me, I am very close to my mother and I know it will break her when I give birth without telling her. What should I do?
O.D
Dear O.D
Having two miscarriages can be an extremely painful experience. More than you may know, it's very possible for your husband to feel a lot of pain, in some cases, even more than you. So, it's understandable to want to not expect anything or tell anyone about it. It may also be the reason for wanting to keep it secret.
However, since you're close with your mother, you should consider having this conversation with him again. It's important that you both have an agreed opinion about it, especially because you're not completely convinced and he's not explaining as well as he should.
Wish you all the best and a safe delivery.
Love,
Sugar