Dear Sugar,
I thought I was married to the man of my dreams up until last week when I found out that he's been sleeping with men. I usually don't check his phone for anything but that day, I was reading a long thread on Twitter on his phone when the messages from his lover popped up. Right now, as I am typing this, I'm still shaken by all the sexting they have been doing. He doesn't know that I know and I honestly don't know what to do.
P.S: I just discovered I am pregnant.
Keep me Anon
Dear Anon,
Even as you're going through the pain of discovering this, know that it was never your fault. Also, regardless of what gender he is with, cheating in an exclusive marriage is wrong. Having to find out that your husband is cheating on you can be really heartwrenching and mentally draining, which is why you may need to answer these personal questions before you move on:
Do you still want to continue the relationship?
Would you want to keep the baby?
If you want to go on with your marriage, would you consider having a conversation with the new discovery?
Do you plan on adjusting to the fact that he may be bisexual or gay?
If your husband is bisexual, understand that being bisexual doesn't mean that he can be with two people (same-sex and opposite-sex) at the same time especially since your marriage is not an open relationship. In the case where he chooses to be with you and you're open to accepting him, chances are that he will have to win the trust that he has severed.
However, if your husband is gay, you may have to come to terms with the fact that your marriage with him is over. Again, it's important that you do not blame yourself.
Sending love and light your way,
Sugar.