Dear Sugar,
Let me get straight to the point. I met my girlfriend at work. I was recruited almost about the same period she got her job in the company and to be honest, she became the only person I could relate with, during and after working hours. We started dating less than a year ago and even though we tried to keep it a secret, some of the staff and even our bosses are well aware that we are dating.
Now the issue started after coronavirus. Our office started laying off staff in different departments because of the losses they accrued. Even though she and I work at different departments, we're a little concerned that they might lay the both of us off. I'm really confused and I am thinking of asking her to step down so I can continue working there. I feel like she has more and better chances at getting a job than I do and I am also planning on getting married to her. I don't want to stop being able to provide for her. Should I bring this up? Does this make me selfish?
O.A
Dear O.A,
It's understandable to be scared that you may both lose your jobs. However, whether your intentions are pure or not, asking your partner to step down for you will portray you as being inconsiderate and selfish. Rather than this, work out a way where both of you can benefit. Also, laying strong foundations in terms of decision making and finances is very important before marriage. Realise that decisions are not placed only on you to make, you should always work together without one person feeling like they are being cheated. Since the decision to lay off whoever is not dependent on you, partner with your girlfriend to discuss aftermath plans in case one or both of you get laid off as well as getting a new job together just in case anything happens.
Wishing you all the best
Love
Sugar
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