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When people get married, it's not their intention to break their vows in the nearest future. Sometimes, unfortunate mishaps occur and signs that show the marriage will not work are neglected.
When there are no more pieces to pick up after several attempts to restore the relationship to status quo, divorce is inevitable.
These are obvious signs that divorce is on the brink of occurrence:
Dwindling Intimacy
Have you gotten so used to sleeping in the guest room and not with your spouse? Maybe you are finding it weird to even be emotionally intimate and stick to a busy life where you just come home to sleep. This is definitely a bad sign that could lead to divorce.
Ineffective Communication
It’s one thing to have little or no communication and another thing to have difficulty communicating. Fighting every time a conversation begins shows a breakdown in communication; the couple may require mediation to pass certain messages across.
Feelings of Loss for One’s Self
A lot of people on this dreary path may feel that they have lost themselves because they no longer enjoy life as they used to. A couple on the verge of divorce may suffer from drastic changes in behaviour alone and around each other as they stop living the life they once enjoyed. One of the individuals may also feel as though he or she never really got to mature into an acceptable version of themselves before sharing it with another person, hence impending feelings that divorce needs to occur.
Dreading Your Partner’s Presence
If you can’t stand to be in your partner’s presence then there is something very wrong. You may find yourself heaving a sigh of relief whenever they have to travel for a few days.
Toxic Relationship
Constant unhappiness is a bad sign and is even worse for one’s health. Your health is your wealth, being around someone that emotionally blackmails you and gets you upset will have you second guessing if you are the problem or not.
Physical Abuse
When your life is in danger from domestic violence, the only reasonable thing to do is to leave that relationship as safely as possible.
Diminished Trust
Divorce may be an option when you no longer trust your spouse. This mistrust may have built over time as a result of rampant infidelity; it’s not a healthy feeling for a relationship.
Staying for the Kids
When one partner openly confesses that he or she is only staying in the relationship to offer the kids a stable family front then this means there is diminished interest in the marriage itself.
Feelings for Someone Else
Sometimes people have fantasies but when you want so much for these dreams to materialize, it may cause instability towards directing proper emotion towards your current life partner. When you have reached the point of wanting to have another relationship then it might be time to call it quits if they don’t disappear.
Getting a divorce is an emotional roller coaster and should only happen as a last resort. Try counselling and mediation strategies to see if there are possible solutions to a healthier marriage except when your life is in danger.