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Being in a relationship certainly does have its ups and downs. However, some issues crop up because of our actions and reactions. If you're at an uncomfortable position in your relationship at the moment, here are some things you should take note of:
You're Bottling Up Emotions
One bad thing about bottling up how you feel is the eventual blow-up. Your love life can get complicated. If you have this attitude, learning how to get out of your shell can be quite uneasy. Nonetheless, consider working on it to make your relationship better.
You're Shutting Your Partner Out
Shutting your partner out is a no-no. What you're doing will eventually cause a rift between you and them. You will also be drawing their attention away from you.
Testing Mind Reading Abilities
Yes, you and your partner may know each other well, but, you can never tell what's in their mind. Assuming almost always puts you in trouble. Rather than making assumptions about what's in their minds, ask them so you can get clarity.
Placing Blames Rather Than Owning Up
Even in instances of disputes, your reaction to an issue can make you guilty. Owning up to Responsibility is a sign of respect and maturity. Blaming your partner will eventually lead to you destroying their self-esteem, and creating an air of doubts.
Trying To Change Them
Changing your partner is not an option. It's a sign that you're not confident in their personalities and you're a little embarrassed by them. Indeed, there's a thin line between helping them be better versions of themselves and changing them. You must learn to differentiate these two things. As partners, there will be things you don't like about the other person, but that's one of the things you signed up for in the relationship. Remember, no one is perfect.
Lying About Finances
Finance is an integral part of a relationship. If you're on about spending the rest of your life with this person, lying about finance-related topics would put you in a bad light.
Constantly Criticizing Them
One of your duties in a relationship is boosting and maintaining your partner's mental health. Complaining about their work or criticizing what they stand for is a recipe for disaster.
It takes two to tango, and it also includes working personally on your attitudes towards your partners.