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Finally, after so many heartbreaks, you found the perfect one. Naturally, you're planning on proposing to her. You may also be thinking of using your ex's ring. Proposing with your ex's engagement ring is quite arguable. Whatever your reason, here's why you shouldn't go ahead with it.
- She's Another Person
You're about to make the best decision in your life. She's not your ex. She's willing to go on that journey with you and re-live every great moment. It would mean getting her a completely different ring. It's only wise to have a fresh start with a new ring.
- You Have Moved On
There are so many reasons why you'd like to propose with your ex's ring. It may be expensive or unique. However, the ring itself is a memory. For the most part, they are memories you don't plan on re-living. Giving your new partner your ex's ring is a constant reminder that you haven't let go.
- You're Passing Mixed Messages
Sometimes, your intent is good. It could have been the most beautiful ring you've ever seen. You could have even completely detached yourself from the memories attached to the ring. These are your dispositions.
Convincing someone else to see that disposition may not be so easy. Even if all of these is true, your girlfriend may be upset that you chose to give her your ex's ring. Rather than rouse drama, avoid it at all cost.
- She'll Never Forget
Let's assume you successfully convinced her. There'll always be a part of her that remembers you got the ring with someone else in mind. Not only would she feel a little disappointed, but she'll constantly battle with her thoughts about whether having the ring is right or not.
- You're Not Planning On Compromising
If proposing with your ex's ring compromises the happiness in your relationship, then you shouldn't. It's better to pick out a ring specifically for her. You can work with the jeweller to pick a ring uniquely for her.
- You See Your Ex In Her
Sometimes, the heartbreaks are very intense. Giving your new girlfriend your ex's ring may remind you of a bad past. You may subconsciously start seeing your girlfriend as your ex. Rather than affecting you and your partner's mental health, sell it off or give it out.