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Some things might just be too good to be true- is it possible that you missed out on the flipside of things when everything else was good on paper? Something as seemingly insignificant as how to press toothpaste out of the tube and not putting the toilet seat down could really ruffle some feathers.
Here are ten weird topics that every couple needs to discuss before getting married:
How early to get to the airport
One party may have anxiety while trying to catch a flight while the other party gets a thrill running towards the airport gate for boarding. Do you know whether your partner is one that likes to chill at the gate and read a novel before casually boarding? It’s quite important to discuss how early to get to the airport and agree on your modus operandi of travelling as a couple.
How often you want to visit family and friends
Living life as a new couple could take some major adjusting; your new family unit is essentially made up of you, your spouse and your kids. Family first may mean prioritizing your immediate family unit but it’s possible to achieve balance without losing touch with other relationships.
How to share housework and running the home
Agreeing on this is a function of the kind of couple you are. One party may be good at collating expenses and replenishing stock of household items while the other may be in charge of making sure that the utilities are functional. Ultimately, a rotational partnership could work.
Offsetting debt as a couple
Honesty when it comes to the amount of debt being owed by each party could prevent lots of fights and offer clarity on the way forward as a financially stable couple.
Setting Limits with friends of the opposite sex
Having a healthy marriage will involve an amount of trust on both sides however, there should be some boundaries set with members of the opposite sex to respect your significant other.
How to handle fertility issues
If it turns out that there are fertility issues in the marriage, it’s wise to think up a coping mechanism and whether you would be open to alternatives like adoption.
Starting and keeping family traditions
Just because Tom’s family goes out drinking every Christmas Eve doesn’t mean that he has to carry on that tradition in his new family. There may be some new traditions you can build as a new couple and some that you keep or forego from either side of the family.
How To Handle The In-Laws
Presenting a united front in front of the in-laws is vital; it will be weird for people to perceive disunity when it comes to certain issues that involve other family members.
Toilet Habits
Leaving the toilet seat up or down is something major to consider as this tends to get on people’s nerves.
Resolving Disagreements
Come up with a conflict resolution strategy and stick to it. This may save a lot of heartache and misery when the going gets tough; for example, some couples decide never to sleep in separate rooms no matter how angry they are with each other.
These aren’t counselling areas that could make or break the marriage (in some cases) but they are considerations that couples actually need to address in order to pre-empt potential arguments and unwanted friction.