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What Men Want, Really!

Men are from Mars and women are from Venus…even though I haven't read this John Gray's New York Times bestseller, I have seen Mel Gibson's movie "What Women Want". A healthy relationship takes two to tango and if we men can sit through a hundred and thirty minutes of a female-sensitivity proficiency test, women too could do with a few tips on meeting our needs. Here is our manifesto on figuring us out.

Like A Virgin

Lets face it, with the exception of Angelina Jolie and perhaps Brad Pitt, nobody is perfect. Despite this salient truth we get so picky when choosing our future partners - 'Oh, she's too fat', 'Neh, he's too short', Argh! she's too hairy', 'God-no! he's got man-boobs'…You may not have said any of these statements but I bet you were thinking of something similar or even worse - shame on us. Now you've got to be asking for a lot if you expect every person you date to be wearing a chastity belt (I seriously hope this is still not being practised in some lost civilization).

Financial Preparation 101

I once heard a preacher talking about some research they did, can't remember who it was exactly, he said they found out that 85% of marriages end up in divorce because of financial issues, I mean 85%, that means, it's not adultery, it's not in-laws, not mistresses or second wives, it's not even falling out of love that represents the biggest reason for divorce. With that statistic in mind, I would say it's very important to prepare for marriage financially.

The S Word

When you and your partner have an argument or one of you upsets the other, the simplest of remedies is often avoided. Why is that men would rather give in (silently) or sulk (again, silently) and hope that Time would 'heal' the situation? Why do women insist that they are right? (Well, that's because they usually are) Why does 'he' have to sleep on the couch if 'she' is really upset with him? - Since 'hell hath no fury greater than a woman scorned' men tend to comply. And why does 'Sorry' seem to be the hardest word to say to someone you love?

Congratulations Ebiakpo & DeKeisha!

Thanks everyone for making it happen, our favourite couple won the $50,000 towards their dream wedding in the wedding contest. Stay tuned for details on their wedding.

Help our favourite couple, Nigerian Ebiakpo Jituboh and his fiancée DeKeisha win $50,000 for their dream wedding which will be featured right here on Sugar! Weddings. Ebiakpo and DeKeisha are one of the five finalists in the Essence "Will you Marry Me 2009" proposal contest.

Rules of Engagement

When I think of Shirley Bassey I recall two iconic songs which had peculiar titles: 'Goldfinger' and 'Diamonds are Forever'. But whilst men probably reminisce about the callous adventures of a womanizing, gadget-sporting, trigger-happy spy with a licence to kill, women are reading between the lines (And if you still haven't had your Eureka! Moment at this point then you are obviously a tom-boy). Gold = Ring = Finger. Similarly Diamonds are…self-explanatory.

Wedding in Absentia

When you fall deeply in love with someone you are bound to face a few obstacles along the way. What if your love was put to the ultimate test and you’re thousands of miles away from your partner, would it endure? For determined long distance couples this could be a walk in the park.

Arranged Marriages Anyone?

Arranged marriages have been a topic of interest for centuries. Authors across the ages have explored this theme at length, and it still surfaces in literary works today. What's the appeal? Is it the fascination with the lack of lust and desire we cultivate in North American society? We strive on the element of danger, of the forbidden, while an arranged marriage is usually a safe way to ensure a family's approval of a union.