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The 'Secret' to Successful Marriages

My parents have never had an argument in front of me or any of my siblings, I used to think that this was the case with every relationship and that with love and patience any relationship would work. No one goes into a marriage with the intention of divorce, No one thinks that will happen to them. However with divorce and separations at an all time high, it is unrealistic to expect a "happily ever after" ending without hiccups and in some cases major road blocks along the way.

Do you know a Groomzilla?

We all know bridezilla - the evil, pushy, overbearing bride who wants everything about her wedding to be perfect even if she has to shed the blood of friends, family members, and vendors. Rumour has it, that most brides give off a little whiff of that evil magic now and then, but who ever heard of the groom going gaga over the floral arrangements?

Well, say hello to groomzilla. Formerly a species restricted only to the ladies in the wedding gowns, this variety of wedding evil is blessed with more testosterone than sense, and is popping up at the most embarrassing of moments.

Thereto I plight Thee my Troth

I got married two years ago, and my husband and I exchanged traditional vows from The Book of Common Prayer.

Are you the other woman?

In light of the recent scandals…I wanted to repost this with a few extras. Please, I beg you if you know someone caught up in this, please forward. The saddest thing about all these women coming forward to kiss(lie) and tell, is their complete lack of understanding of what they are doing to themselves and how they are trying to glamorize their poor choices…So I dey ask?

Are Marriage Proposals Dead?

I read this on today...Is there a point in an official proposal when you've both 'seriously' discussed getting married to each other?

What Men Want, Really!

Men are from Mars and women are from Venus…even though I haven't read this John Gray's New York Times bestseller, I have seen Mel Gibson's movie "What Women Want". A healthy relationship takes two to tango and if we men can sit through a hundred and thirty minutes of a female-sensitivity proficiency test, women too could do with a few tips on meeting our needs. Here is our manifesto on figuring us out.

Like A Virgin

Lets face it, with the exception of Angelina Jolie and perhaps Brad Pitt, nobody is perfect. Despite this salient truth we get so picky when choosing our future partners - 'Oh, she's too fat', 'Neh, he's too short', Argh! she's too hairy', 'God-no! he's got man-boobs'…You may not have said any of these statements but I bet you were thinking of something similar or even worse - shame on us. Now you've got to be asking for a lot if you expect every person you date to be wearing a chastity belt (I seriously hope this is still not being practised in some lost civilization).

Financial Preparation 101

I once heard a preacher talking about some research they did, can't remember who it was exactly, he said they found out that 85% of marriages end up in divorce because of financial issues, I mean 85%, that means, it's not adultery, it's not in-laws, not mistresses or second wives, it's not even falling out of love that represents the biggest reason for divorce. With that statistic in mind, I would say it's very important to prepare for marriage financially.

The S Word

When you and your partner have an argument or one of you upsets the other, the simplest of remedies is often avoided. Why is that men would rather give in (silently) or sulk (again, silently) and hope that Time would 'heal' the situation? Why do women insist that they are right? (Well, that's because they usually are) Why does 'he' have to sleep on the couch if 'she' is really upset with him? - Since 'hell hath no fury greater than a woman scorned' men tend to comply. And why does 'Sorry' seem to be the hardest word to say to someone you love?

Congratulations Ebiakpo & DeKeisha!

Thanks everyone for making it happen, our favourite couple won the $50,000 towards their dream wedding in the wedding contest. Stay tuned for details on their wedding.

Help our favourite couple, Nigerian Ebiakpo Jituboh and his fiancée DeKeisha win $50,000 for their dream wedding which will be featured right here on Sugar! Weddings. Ebiakpo and DeKeisha are one of the five finalists in the Essence "Will you Marry Me 2009" proposal contest.