Hi Mr. Sugar, My boyfriend and I continually have this argument about who the 'head' of the family is. I don't think there's a 'head' per se; I feel that spouses should be partners who fulfill different roles in their relationship. With no one role being important than the next. Both parties should be able to go to each other for advice I don't like this idea of one person having the final say for the family. He on the other hand thinks this is all just 'feminist BS'. Are we heading for disaster?
- Mrs. 'Head'
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Dear Mrs. Head,
Immediately cease arguing with your boyfriend, about who the head of the family is, that’s like arguing about who really runs Nigeria; it calls for a very nuanced explanation; He will be the head of the family. He is the one that will protect you, the home, and your children. However like so many figureheads it doesn’t mean that you do not wield significant influence over him and your future family. Show me a successful man and I’ll show you a strong woman who is his partner. Encourage him to reach for the stars, support him, and do not neglect your own dreams and goals. You both also have to be willing to make sacrifices for one another. Sit down together and talk, tell him you’re the head of our family, these are my goals; this is what I want our life to be like. Ask him what his goals are? What do you want our lives to be like? Say ok how do we get there? How do we accomplish all these things? Note the lack of detail you will be filling in the blanks. And always remember to pray on it together.
- Mr. Sugar