Hurt & Confused
Dear Mr. Sugar, I found out my boyfriend was in a long distance relationship with another lady while (they have been dating for much longer than we have) we were dating.
After much drama, he broke up with her because he couldn't do the distance but never told her anything about me. Recently I found out that she may be moving back home to Nigeria and I'm not sure what to think, considering his only reason for ending things with her was the distance. Other than this our relationship is fantastic we spend a lot of time together and when we're not physically together we spend hours and hours on the phone. On one hand I feel like I should just let the whole thing go, cause I don't want to get caught up in some 'crazy ex-girlfriend/girlfriend drama' but another part of me wants to hold on and see how this ends up. Am I setting myself up for disappointment? Do you think he's just being a guy and telling me what I want to hear?
- Hurt & Confused
Hello 'Hurt & Confused'
In other words you caught your boyfriend cheating on you; he obviously doesn’t respect you or the relationship that you share enough to let his real girl friend know the situation. You already know the answer to your question. If you enjoy his companionship than by all means continue to spend time with him but don't take this relationship serious and make sure you practice safe sex or the road will be full of even more pain, heartache, and deceit.
- Mr. Sugar