Love is magical, love is beautiful, love is everything, and some even say love is blind. That is questionable though.
When one falls in love, nothing else matters. No one anticipates the end or an unhappy ending. These feelings may make one ignore certain key things to look out for which would obviously determine the outcome of the relationship.
How and what should you dig up?
Let's start with HOW.
Most people ignore certain things and feel it's best to leave it untouched. The problem may not be asking but how it's asked. Simple yet important questions about family, finances, and friends shouldn't be ignored. These are very vital areas you should know about.
This doesn't mean you should act like an FBI agent snooping around, but it's simply saying you should be aware of what's going on in the life of your partner. If something doesn't sit well with you, talk about it, this goes back to the previous point. ASK QUESTIONS.
Getting involved in the activities of your potential partner would expose you to the kind of friends they keep, their family and daily or regular activities. It would also help you see how you can gracefully fit into the whole picture. You need to know.
SPEND TIME TOGETHER
You need to get to know each other better, and you can only do that by spending quality time with each other. This helps you bond more, and you get to find out certain things you may or may not like and get things resolved before it goes too far.
WHAT should you dig up?
You need to know what kind of relationship they have with their family, the kind of upbringing they had, do they believe in things you are against? Simple facts that would help you especially if you plan on a future together.
What is their source of income? Legal or illegal? What about prospects? For instance, finances are not good enough what are the potentials to do better in the future? Is it sustainable for now?
Just like Vladimir Lenin ‘says show me your friends and I will tell you who you are.' Your friends either make or break you. Being surrounded by the wrong set of friends would reflect on you in some way or the other. You need to know who your potential partner spends most of the time with.
The importance of health checks cannot be over-emphasized. Do not neglect this.
Personal hygiene, religion, habits, hobbies, all these are things you should dig up, for it would help with compatibility checks.
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