Whether you’re five months’ post-divorce or five years, there’s no denying that getting back into the dating scene is daunting. Simply put, there is no "right" time to get back in the game.
Possibly a better question than when is why do you want to start dating? And what are you looking to find? If you're bored or lonely; try hanging out with friends and family or perhaps donating your time to a non-profit cause is the way to go. Whatever you decide, do not expect dating to satisfy all your needs as this is impractical and might attract (or cause you to accept) people who aren't best for you.
Fear no more, get back in the game with these tips
- Please stay out of bed for as long as possible. Once you allow sex, it makes it harder to let go.
- Never bring a new date home; try to keep your dating out of sight of your kids.
- Make sure to clarify things from on-set by asking the right questions and observing actions/responses.
- Don’t be out for people with opposite abilities of your EX. They can seem satisfactory at first but make sure you are loving your new partner for who they are rather than just filling the holes left by your ex.
- When things get serious, it would be advised to introduce your new date to your EX but away from the kids.
- Introduce your date to your kids as a friend and gradually ease them into liking him/her. Don’t let them feel the new friend is a replacement.
- The focal points of your discussion must be on topics that will make you learn about each other and not all about your past, your divorce, Ex or even about your children.
- No matter what the age of the child, avoid a detailed explanation of why you broke up. They need to know but not as confidants.
- Above all, make sure you are not ignoring any signs that might cause you your happiness.
Wishing every single parent out there love!